Thoughts from Beating The Midas Curse continue this holiday season. Being a 10% family is not an accident or a stroke of luck. It is a thoughtful and deliberate decision to help make sure your family understands what matters most to you. It is about helping identify strengths and the unique values that have sustained your life journey and sharing that information with your family.
During some quiet time during this most enjoyable time of the year, take a quiet moment to consider the following:
- Do you know the first name of your great grandmother? What she stood for?
- Would you like your great grandchildren to know your first name and what you stood for and what mattered to you?
- Do you think future generations could benefit from your life lessons and experiences?
- What’s your plan to make it happen?
- When you begin to think about and write about (or talk about) what has mattered in your life, it launches a powerful process that will evolve into a living document for your family and future generations.
- It’s not a will or contract. It is something for future generations to draw strength, leaning and guidance. A Legacy.
List the things that matter to you. Keep it basic. Don’t worry about creating a literary masterpiece. Begin by writing down a list of one- or two-words to describe the things that mattered most in your own life…..values, characters, ideals and aspirations. Next, jot some simple notes next to each one. What do they mean to you? What is your definition?
Now the hardest part for most people. Think a little about how you’re doing at sharing this with your family. Next to each one of the above words and short sentences, describe how you have shared the things that you have identified as being most important to you. Ooops! How successful have you been at finding moments to deliberately and thoughtfully share them? Or have you failed miserably? That’s OK. You have time.